Affirmations


Birth affirmations and inspirations

“Our world is a reflection of the beliefs we hold…and affirmations can be a useful tool in helping us to change these beliefs…if you find you have fears and concerns about birthing your baby, using affirmations can help to dispel these. Even if you are feeling wonderful and positive, they can only add to what is already inside of you…all power to you for a joyous birth!” www.labouroflove.org.

Choose from this extensive list those, which resonate with you or simply create your own. You can write them on little cards and place them around where you will see them… next to the stove, in the car, on the bathroom mirror, by your bed. The aim is for them to be absorbed into your consciousness so your brain believes the statements and then makes it a reality… that can only be a good thing!

The following affirmations are from the labour of love website:

I will have a strong and healthy baby

I trust my body to know how to birth this child

I trust my instincts to know what I need in labour

I trust my instincts to do what is best for my baby

I am a strong and capable woman

My body knows how to birth my baby

I trust my instincts

Babies are born when they are ready, not when doctors, midwives or anyone decides.

My body is indeed beautifully and wonderfully made

It’s good for me to take care of myself.

I have to be truthful with myself

Listen to my body and heart

I deserve to have the birth I desire

I trust my body

I trust my pain

I trust my labour

I trust in my baby

I am a strong and capable woman

I am a powerful, loving and creative being

I am now willing to experience all my feelings

My pelvis releases and opens as have those of countless women before me

I accept myself completely here and now

I now feel inner peace and serenity

I accept this labour as my labour and believe it is the right one for me and for my baby

I love and accept my body completely

I accept all my feelings as part of myself

I feel the love of others around me

My baby knows all is well

My heart knows what my baby needs, my mind is learning

I am a powerful, loving and creative being

I accept myself completely here and now

I now feel inner peace and serenity

I accept all my feelings as part of myself

Good strong contractions help my baby come into the world

I embrace the concept of healthy pain

I have enough love to go around, the universe always provides

I am strong, confident assured and assertive

My body contains all the knowledge necessary to give birth to my baby

My baby knows how and when to be born

Birth is a safe and wonderful experience

My baby will be born healthy and at the perfect time

These are from the website birthbuddies

Birth is a safe and wonderful experience..

I know my baby feels our calmness and confidence.

I trust in my ability to give birth.

My body knows exactly what it is doing.

I am confident in my ability to birth naturally, painlessly and easily.

During labour and birth, I am completely relaxed and comfortable.

I will have an uncomplicated, peaceful, joyous and pleasurable birth.

My baby is healthy.

I am completely cooperating with my body.

I will breathe deeply and slowly to relax my muscles making it easier for my uterus to work.

My body is made to give birth, nice and easy.

I believe my baby’s birth will come quickly and easily.

My body is completely relaxed.

All I need to do is relax and breathe – nothing else.

Everything is going right.

I feel the strong waves of labour and know that everything is normal and progressing.

I relax my mind and muscles.

My body knows how to have this baby just as my body knew how to grow this baby.

Keep breathing slow and even. Inhale peace, exhale tension.

Keep my mind on acceptance and surrender.

I surrender my birthing over to my baby and my body.

My body has a wide-open space for my baby to descend.

My body will give birth in its own time.

I love my baby and I am doing all that is necessary to bring about a healthy birth.

Birth is an easy and natural occurrence for which my body has been perfectly designed.

The strength of my uterine contractions is a sign of my feminine strength.

I surrender to the contractions and relinquish control of the forces within my body.

I allow my body’s natural anaesthesia to flow through my body.

The power and intensity of my contractions cannot be stronger than me, because it is me.

I am ready and prepared for childbirth.

My job is to simply relax and allow the birth to happen.

Just let my body do it; let it happen.

I see myself handling everything beautifully.

Each contraction produces a healthy, positive pain that I can handle.

Birth will go exactly as it should.

Inspirations

If in doubt, breathe out

~ Cathy Doberska – Reading, UK NCT teacher

The power and intensity of your contractions cannot be stronger than you, because it is you.

~ Unknown

The Birthsong

The night is still, the moon full and bright
She feels it approaching, her belly once again tight
All is in ready the time’s finally come
She’s hoping her baby will be here by the rising of the sun.

The song begins gently, moving slowly at first
The courage, the fear, the love, the hope and the mirth
Some sing quite softly and some loud and strong
Their babies emerge as they sing the Birthsong

Time becomes frozen as woman by woman, birth by birth
They’re all connected through their bodies & songs
It knows no boundaries, no colour, no races
It fills all their bodies, their hearts, souls and faces.
The sounds of each woman as she sings the Birthsong

Her breathing grows faster as each new wave moves within
She remembers to let go, to surrender again
She opens her eyes and sees her partner, her lover, her friend
Remembering with tenderness their choice to begin

The song begins gently, moving slowly at first
The courage, the fear, the love and the hope
Some sing quite softly and some loud and strong
Their babies emerge as they sing the Birthsong

Time becomes frozen as woman by woman, birth by birth
They’re all connected through their bodies & songs
It knows no boundaries, no color, no races
It fills all their bodies, their hearts, souls and faces.
The sounds of each woman as she sings the Birthsong

The songs been completed the babe’s in her arms
Both teary eyed parents are moved by it’s charms
The song appears ended at least in this room
But I’ll hear it eternal with other bright moons.

The song begins gently, moving slowly at first
The courage, the fear, the love, the hope and the mirth
Some sing quite softly and some loud and strong
Their babies emerge as they sing the Birthsong

Time becomes frozen as woman by woman, birth by birth
They’re all connected through their bodies & songs
It knows no boundaries, no color, no races
It fills all their bodies, their hearts, souls and faces.
The sounds of each woman as she sings the Birthsong

~ Dana Beardshear

If it hurts, get off it, move it around, rub it better.

~ Barbara Kott (president of the NCT)

Just as a woman’s heart knows how and when to pump, her lungs to inhale, and her hand to pull back from fire, so she knows when and how to give birth.

~ Virginia Di Orio

The same movements that get the baby in, get the baby out

~ From Birthing From Within

You will emerge from uncertainty into great peace and freedom.

~ Unknown

The Candle

Imagine that your pelvis is a candle with a flame in the middle
As my contractions come, the flame burns brighter.
My body is the wax of the candle, warming and yielding to the flame.
The more I breathe, the brighter the candle burns.
The wax melts and drips with each contraction.
My body becomes looser and opens to the flame.
I see my pelvis becoming soft and warm and pliable.
I breathe. With each contraction, the candle becomes softer.
I melt with the candle.
My breath helps the candle burn brighter, melting quicker.
I remain soft, warm, and yielding.

~ Barbara Harper “Gentle Birth Choices”

Only with trust, faith, and support can the woman allow the birth experience to enlighten and empower her.

~ Claudia Lowe

300,000 women will be giving birth with you today.
Relax and breathe and do nothing else.
Labor is hard work and you can do it.

~Unknown

The Rose

My cervix is like a rosebud
Ready to Open
I am nurtured by those around me as the rose is nurtured by the soil
The rosebud gradually, ever so softly, opens and blossoms.
I open and blossom.
My cervix is soft and ripe like a rosebud.
I see the outer petals of the rose falling away
I see my cervix yielding like the outer petals of the rose.
Every contraction opens another petal of my rosebud cervix.
I welcome each contraction, which helps me open my rosebud cervix.
I welcome and receive all the nurturing around me, which helps me open.
Just like the warm sun opens the rose, the warmth I receive opens my cervix.

I yield and open.
The rose does not resist.
I open and blossom.

~ Barbara Harper“Gentle Birth Choices”

The knowledge of how to give birth without outside intervention lies deep within each woman. Successful childbirth depends on an acceptance of the process.

~ Suzanne Arms

Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.

~ Lois Wilson

We’ve all been waiting for you.
For you.
Your arrival has been marked, has been recorded
on earth,
in the universe,
in the galaxies,
in all of space,
in all of time.

You come with a birthright, written in love and sung
through all Creation in words which promise
that no matter where you’re at,
you’re home
that no matter who you’re with,
you’re welcome
that no matter who you are,
you’re loved.
Welcome.

~ Rita Ramsey

When you have come to the edge
of all the light you know
And are about to step off
Into the darkness of the unknown,
Faith is knowing that
One of two things will happen:
There will be something solid to stand on
Or you will be taught how to fly.

~ Patrick Overter

You’re braver than you believe. Stronger than you seem. And smarter than you think.

~ Christopher Robin in Pooh’s Grand Adventure

You are constructing your own reality with the choices you make…or don’t make. If you really want a healthy pregnancy and joyful birth, and you truly understand that you are the one in control, then you must examine what you have or haven’t done so far to create the outcome you want.

~ Kim Wildner-Mother’s Intention: How Belief Shapes Birth

A woman in harmony with her spirit is like a river flowing. She goes where she will without pretense and arrives at her destination, prepared to be herself and only herself.

~ Maya Angelou

If I don’t know my options, I don’t have any.

~ Diana Korte

Rain, after all is only rain; it is not bad weather. So also, pain is only pain; unless we resist it, then it becomes torment.

~ the I Ching

For Midwives:

 

“In the first place, I wish and desire all midwives

not to bee too forward, or too officious

in their undertakings, least that they disquiet

nature, whose only work it is, and I would

have them to understand, that they bee but

nature’s servants in all motion, hereafter shall

be shewed … And let all midwives bee assured,

that it is not their labours, in pulling, and

haling their women’s bodies, that causeth deliver.

But that it is the work of Dame nature…”

Dr Percivall Willughby, MD (1596–1685)

 

You are a midwife.
You are assisting at someone else’s birth
Do good without show or fuss.
Facilitate what is happening
rather than what you think
ought to be happening.
If you must, take the lead.
Lead so that the mother is helped,
yet still free and in charge.
When the babe is born
the mother will rightly say,
“We did it ourselves”

Lao Tsu, Tao Te Ching,  5th Century B.C.